Love And Respect by Emerson Eggerichs Part Fourteen

Installment #14 Love & Respect

Eggerichs talks about loyalty. He says "A wife MUST have reassurance" (pg 269) and that she "needs reassurance, not jokes and teasing." (pg 270)

"When your wife becomes a bit insecure and moves toward you with questions...you might feel it's some kind of trap. You may think you're being set up so she can condemn you and show you disrespect if you hesitate with your answer...but...she moves towards you because she needs reassurance of your loyalty to her." (pg 278) When we consider that if a man leaves his wife and children, he may need to pay child support but he generally already has a job and a good resume behind him. A woman has to put forth an incredible amount of trust to bear children and rely on a man for financial and other support. Even taking a couple year break from work can put women in a very dangerous position financially. A man with empathy will understand this vulnerable position and a man feeling like needing this reassurance is somehow some sort of "trap" so she can "condemn you and show you disrespect" is very shallow and immature thinking indeed. This isn't a difference between men and women. Put a man in this vulnerable position and he would also want reassurance. He just generally doesn't even have to consider it in the relationship.

Eggerichs seems to generally indicate that men need to be loyal, which I agree with. Teasing and joking when asked for reassurance is an indicator of immaturity and wives know this. Could it be that what some men think of as "disrespect" means his wife sees him for who he is and this is why he doesn't want to be "questioned"?

This writing is the copyright of Lynne Johnson-Yohnk and was posted with her permission. It was originally posted on her Paradigm Shift Page. Additional articles may be viewed here.

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